Favoritism and Competitive:

Some people don’t realize that they choice favoritism over other animals, people, and objects. Some people know what they are doing it and yet they still continue to do that. Others realize and change to treat equal.

In family, brothers and sisters did know that and they try to competition against each other to win favoritism. Some gave up and some did try to win their love or approval. My dad never forgives his father for pick his favorite of his older brother. It’s ironic that his father said that he loves all of his children as equal. If so, then why did he always take his older son to fishing and never invite other boys to his fishing. He denies that. He mentions that he loves them as the same. I thought that was interesting that he didn’t realize what he was doing. My father never forgives him even after his death. Sad ending, huh?

I remembered that my grandma did pick favoritism. When I spoke to my cousin that she can watch any TV show until 9pm is only one of my favorite show that I want to watch. Anything else is I’m willing sacrifice. So she watched from 6pm to 9pm. Now that it was my turn and I was only interesting from 9pm to 10pm and she can watch anything else after 10pm. When it was time, I change specific channel. She got upset. I told her bluntly that she watches 3 full hours and it is my turn to watch at least an hour. She refused to listen and whine to our grandma. Her mother and my mother were there, too. Her mother and grandma were scolding at me, I came to my mother and tried to explain. She made her choice to backup with them. I remember how upset I was when they refused to listen to my side of the story. That is how I started to able to see that my grandma favoritism over her instead of me. I was not happy about that situation. Funny, I remember how much I want to make a revenged. Unfortunately, my parents and I were left the next day.

Christmas time coming around the corner and it was time to visit grandparent’s house. I was exciting and almost forgotten. Suddenly, I remembered the revenged that I was going to make. I figured that my cousin hasn’t experience roller skate, since she’s couple years younger than me. I got my first roller skate for my birthday so I decided to take it with me. My dad did said no at first. I come up to my mom and said at least, I’m not taking bike with me because roller skate is smaller than bike. My mom’s soft-hearted and said to my dad, please let her take it. He went like alright, alright then grabbed the roller skate and put in the truck.

Next few days, my cousin arrived and we played together for a while until we ran out the idea of games, then I remembered. I came up to my dad and have him to get my roller skate. I was outside at the driveway. I put it on. She just looked at me and looked at the roller skate. She didn’t say anything but her face expression was like whatcha doing? She was curious. The moment I got up and rolled off with my roller skate. Her face expression was surprised and pointed her finger to my roller skate. She ran up to me and asked me that if she could try it on. I shook my head. She assumed that she was going to wait for her turn. She sat and waited and waited. Afterward, she came back to me and begged me for her to try it on. I refused. She sat on the steps and swings her legs and let her out cried. I was ignoring her and I let out my humming sound. She pouted and crossed her arms. She ran inside. I knew what she was going to do. Few minutes later, my grandma and mother showed up. They kept asking me to let her try on. I refused. My mom assumed that I didn’t understand her. She tried to explain again. I shook my head and kept rolling. My grandma was upset and she put her hand on her hips and looked at my mom. My mom sticks her hands out with her shoulder goes up, it was her way to say I have no idea what’s going on. My grandma let her frustrated sigh and walked in the house. My mom looked at me with her puzzled in her face. And I kept on rolling. My mom went inside. I said to myself, I’ve won. I was grinning from ear to ear.

Looking back, I do not regret of what I did. However, I still don’t understand why do people picked favoritism and reject others. I know I do have favorite books and etc. But when it comes to people and children, they are alive human being who has feelings, deserve to be loved, and treat equal.

Other day, when I was watching TV showed called “Dog Whisper”, when a couple picked one favoritism dog over other two dogs. That is what cause favoritism dog and other dog fights. Reason why? The couple picked the favoritism dog and made that dog to become Alpha dog and other dog felt left out so they fight. The Dog Whisper, Caesar, told them not to pick any favoritism and treat them equal. I find it amazing that we, humans, didn’t realize what we were doing and that we affect the dog’s behavior. It is the same with children and people. We have preferences.

I can see a family or friends can be competitive against each other. I can see if I have a friend and other friend got so jealous and try to competitive against me. I already knew it is not worth to try to compete against other and I just walked away and let it go. Those two friends became very close and I just sat back and observed. Last time I heard, they were living in South Carolina. One married to Christian pastor and other got married, they do have kids. When I was surprised to see them (they’re together at the mall like best friends.), they came up to me to say hi. I gave them my hug as I was glad to see a familiar faces. One girl who I back away from was surprised that I gave her hugged. I think that she thinks that I dislike her because I back away. But truth is I back away because I do not want to competitive with friends (for those who try to compete against me) like I see at the soap opera. I detest soap opera. It is nothing but backstabbing and stealing boyfriend/girlfriend craps. It’s wasting time. I can see her attitude was like I won her to be my best friend. I didn’t care. They move on and got married and I move on and went to college.

What amaze me that adult people still act like kids by going around picking favoritism and competitive against each other. Why do people continue pick favoritism? I do not know.

Why do people competitive for friendship or love? One possible guess, they are craving for those that lack from childhood. They are afraid to lose center of attention and love.