As a result of getting hooked in your relationships and having no boundaries in them, you might experience silent withdrawal. This withdrawal involves not allowing yourself to feel feelings of anger or disappointment because things are not going well in your relationships. You might even be driven to use your compulsive behaviors to medicate your negative feelings. You might become more compulsive in your drinking, drugging, gambling, overeating or other addictive behaviors (eg.: shopping, credit car use, risk taking etc.). This act of holding in your anger, about your relationships not giving you what you wanted, just exacerbates your anger. Your keeping silent to maintain a "Peace at any price" stance to avoid conflict with your relationship partners just makes your anger greater and more intense. If you continue to hold your anger in, you will became more and more depressed which feeds the need to self-medicate and withdraw more from your relationship partners. By this action you may also pull away from family, friends, support networks and life in general. You need to get your anger out about how hurt you are that your relationships are not what you wanted. You need to get your anger out about how you have given and given in this relationship until you have no more to give. You need to get your anger out about how you have lost yourself in your relationships because you have no boundaries between you and your relationship partners. If you verbalize your anger in healthy ways you will become a better problem solver in relationships. This will help you and your relationship partners to creatively address and confront the issues pulling your relationships apart. ***End of copy and paste** Respectfully from that website.
Now that's interesting... I didn't realize that. I notice that many people are addictive of drinking, smoking, gambling, and spending the stuff because of refusing to face the problem or not able to say no. I remember that my mom mention that when my dad smoked often it means something bothering him. Sometime my mom able to get him confess but most the time he doesn't want to face it. So, when he refuse to face the problems, he smoke to release his stressful moment. It is usually from my dad's work that he has a problem from.
Anyway, there is a lot of info in that website, I think it is worth to take a look.
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